Phrases to Avoid

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The following words to avoid that will help you when speaking to others as it comes to your life: personally and professionally. This goes for both sexes.

I'll try.......

I hope........

It's just that........

But, I.........

Well, I.........

The above phrases to avoid keep you in failure mode. It keeps you in fear mode. It keeps you from making decisions that you need to make in order to move forward. Yes, there is truth in what Yoda said. "There is no try. There is only do." We don't try on clothes. We put on clothes. We don't try to eat. We do eat. We don't try to walk. We walk. We don't try to make our bed. We are either making it or not making it. We are always either doing something or not doing something.

The above phrases also prevent us from doing the right thing. The right thing that is best for our own health. Let's look at the word well-being. Well as in wellness. Are you well in mind? Are you well in your body? Are you well in your soul? All of us should take time for self-reflection with what we are thinking, doing, and not doing, etc. It is often in the not doing where we go wrong. That we mess up relationships. How we are take care or ourselves, is a reflection of how we treat others.

Look, I know we all have a past, and our own traumas that we've experienced in life. Every single human on this earth has suffered through trauma, and more than likely several forms of trauma the more that we live this thing we call life. It's not something that we should be ignoring. Some people I have noticed do seem to ignore and out right lie to themselves when they say they have never suffered trauma. Trauma is not just the physical and/or sexual abuse. An interesting but not interesting is that 99% of the time it's always something in childhood. Whether it was real or unreal, how we perceive things as a child in the family that we were raised in.

If you follow me or pay any attention to me, you will have noticed that I do tend to focus on communication, on trauma, and relationships. I mean that is what bodywork can help with, whether someone wants to admit that or not.

Touch is healing. Touch is love. Touch is light.

Way too many of us have suffered trauma through touch. Whether it was by hand, or by an instrument, or weapon. Back in the day a lot of us received the belt from our father. I am no exception to that. That is how we were disciplined. Did it work? I doubt it. Because whether or not we think it did work, I have heard some men say that it stopped them from being a 'bad boy'. Nonetheless, it does create trauma inside the body, and will come out later within the teenage years, and end up even into adult years within the relationships that we build. It really fucking sucks that the traumas that we've experienced in life do affect the relationships that we have in the here and now. And I'm sorry to say, but no one is ever 100% healed. Because memories are memories. It doesn't mean necessarily that someone is purposefully holding onto those memories. It just means that the memories are there. And sometimes they do come forward. The more that we heal from them, the less the triggers happen. Nonetheless, life is life and there are times they will still pop up.

Bodywork is a way that we can help ourselves get back in touch with our own body, therefore create some relief from the stress of everything that is going on in our life. And yes, sometimes those things are from childhood trauma.

Respectfully,

Goddess Maggie